HerReality

November 27, 2000
I had to spend an afternoon in Chicago last winter, during which it snowed about 2 1/2 feet. It was cold, but I was properly bundled. It would have been miserable if it weren't so beautiful. My friend and I popped in and out of shops on the Miracle Mile, laughing and shaking the snow off our shoulders each time. Watching the people deal with the weather was almost as fun--some more than others were decidedly NOT pleased at having to cope. I caught many a stranger's eye and smiled with delight at the weather. This winter, remember the days when you were impervious to cold, and go outside and play.

Just think--now, you get to come back inside and indulge in grown-up warming drinks. Hot cocoa is ever so much better when it's spiked with a little schnapps. Or raspberry liqueur, or chocolate, or just good old brandy. Hot tea with lemon and bourbon is a favorite of mine--it's much easier to shake off a chill with one of those Kentucky hot toddies in your hands.

When you've had enough of the out-of-doors, start a Monday-night-in tradition with your friends or family this winter. I know one group of women that plays Scrabble and eats a potluck supper every Monday night. They pick Monday because they're too busy on Saturday going out to clubs and listening to music.

If you have any great sites to recommend or comments on what you would like to see in this newsletter, please feel free to contact me at Betsy@herreality.com

Betsy Boyd
Editor, Her reality.com


		Part of the reluctance a lot of us feel for venturing out into the cold is so easily overcome. It's mostly a matter of proper clothing. Take some time at a hat store and find a hat that flatters you--your mother was right when she said that keeping a hat on your head would really help keep you warmer. Every outfitter from Eddie Bauer to L.L. Bean has lightweight, warm coats and thermal underwear these days. And really, once you're wrapped up properly, there's no reason not to get out. Get workout wear for the winter. Even cyclists don't stop riding just because the temperature drops--they just get the proper attire. Some basics for walkers: long underwear, a long-sleeved shirt (turtlenecks are ideal), fleece pants and a jacket or a windbreaker, a hat and gloves or mittens. You should be a bit chilly when you start out, but make sure you can get rid of layers or at least unzip as you warm up. Be brave. Remember that moving even a little will help your mood. Exposure to the sun, if at all possible, is proven to alleviate depression. Handy tip: Remove metal jewelry before you start walking, because it can make you feel even colder. Walk into the wind when you start out, so the wind is behind you on your way home. It will help you not lose steam. For more motivating tips, check out these women's advice: Prevention



	After a recent quick search on several women-oriented websites for "friends," I was surprised and disappointed to discover that there is very little out there that deals with this crucial role in our lives. I can attest that sometimes being a good friend is the hardest thing we can do. Friendships don't just exist without effort--they need input and attention like any relationship. And they are so important. It's a truth I've known for a long time that friends are far more long-lasting than most relationships with guys. Even when you find the partner of your dreams, you need to carry your friendships forward. How? It's really not that hard, so long as you remember to make time for your friends. Get Out: Movie Night can be a great way to stay current on each other and on what's in the theaters. Trade the job of getting the tickets and picking the movie. Gossip time can come before the movie, or after for a quick drink after work, or a longer meal, or even a cup of coffee. Craft Night: It's a good idea to set aside a night when you do some kind of craft. My terribly chic friends have all been known to quilt or do needlepoint or knit. It's a nice thing to do together, or even to teach each other. Read a Book: Set up a book club with your friends, and once per month have that be the topic of conversation with your friends. Trade responsibility for leading the discussion, and decide together what kinds of things you all want to talk about. When it's your turn to lead, take the job seriously. Read some reviews of the book, and take notes as you read. It's a great exercise in paying attention and reading mindfully. Take a Class: Whether it's cooking, swimming, or self-defense, or home improvement, there are opportunities abounding for people who want to learn just about anything. This is a great way to meet new people, and to bond with your friends. Collecting Guides


I'm always a fan of the cool bedroom with warm covers--it's one of winter's best gifts that we get to break out the flannel sheets and down comforter. Here's a great resource for the good things that make your bed that much more inviting at the end of the day. Where is Your Stuff?

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